STOP ABUSE! I was asked to write this today and because I do believe in stopping abuse, I wrote it!
Part of the abuse cycle is about - once someone is abused - how do you fix it? I mean there is abuse out there that is going on, that can't be stopped. It's verbal abuse. People can see physical abuse, it's the abuse you can't see that's so insidious.
Breaking down a child's self esteem is so easy - one word - one look - one harsh reaction. Then the next time it is easier. Before you know it - self esteem is gone.
So how does one help? Is there a magic wand? A book? Does it happen over night? Can it be fixed?
I think so with long hard work.
Here are some thoughts about that.
An environment where growth is accelerated
It is not comfortable in there
Hot, wet, a lot of pruning
Not a particularly clean environment either
But it is the best for growth
(you have to get in your self and clean yourself out!)
Failure is wasted if you return only to the place from where you fell. If your plans fail, think bigger, aim higher. (try and try again)
In each journey of your life you must be where you are. You may only be passing through on your way to somewhere else seemingly more important -- nevertheless, there is purpose in where you are right now. (acceptance of the things you cannot change - courage to change the things you can and the wisdom to know the difference).