An inquiring mind wants to know. It's confusing OR am I making it too difficult and it's not all that important where?
Now no big news here, I know that, you know that, everyone knows that. This is this question. How do we take that information and put it together to make relationships or can we?
For example - if a woman has a problem - it's wired all over her - it takes over. She thnks about it - dwells on it - worries about it - tries to fix it - and so forth.
Now I think the good thing about middle age is - for me at least - is that I'm getting to the point on some things - not all - and not all the time (sometimes I get hooked back into the worry mode and/or I try to fix things), but a lot of times "My Give A Damn Is Busted' (a song by Jo Dee Messina) and I'm okay with it.
Now according to what I've heard - men - they just put it in a box. End of story. They can't do anything about it so therefore nothing can be done and they just go to another box. Case closed. No worries. Is that true?
Gee, I wish I could do that sometimes. And I know I'm overgeneralizing here. Nothing is as simple as that, but think about it - just put your worries in a box and go to another one.
I don't think if someone said I had to do it or die - I still don't know if I really could do that. I'm always thinking and moving and analyzing and wishing and hoping and trying to figure things out.
There is this wonderful seven layer death by chocolate cake with a little bit of Breyer's vanilla ice cream on the table. It is moist. It is beautiful. You haven't eaten all day. It's just calling you. You want it and you need it. But alas, you cannot have it. It is under lock and key and no one is there with the key to open it up. Plus your on a diet and you 'shouldn't' have it or let say you're a diabetic and you sugar is high or low and you know you'd be in real trouble if you ate it.
A man - puts it in a box - and I guess can walk away from it. Not wanting it. (Maybe I should put a beer for a man -Lol)
A woman - put it in a box? Walk away from it? Not want it? Hmmmmmmmmmmm. I don't think so. She wonders if she should try to open it, looks for the key, decides that a bite won't hurt her diet, gets mad and frustrated, and so forth.
Do you understand what I am saying here? Is it important? How do men and women communicate then? The man has melting ice cream in his closed box and is probably watching television in the other box. And the woman sits there frustrated - wanting the melting ice cream, but no matter - she can't have it.