Well, to tell you the truth - I'm not a person that has to be in love - yet I am a person who is very much in love and very much in love with the idea of love, but maybe not in the traditional way - as I'm kind of an irregular person (or weird).
I think 'love' is highly over rated. Way too much pressure. That 'having to love' changes things.
Maybe I put too many high expectations for love and no one can meet the requirements - I'll admit it.
My friend Lynne told me her view of love which is, "I've been reading Max Lucado's book "3:16 The Numbers of Hope", a really neat book and there are a couple of lines that speak to what we were sharing earlier today, page 141-142 talks about how God did what he did and became human knowing the suffering he would endure, but chose 'us' any way, "He humbled himself. He went from commanding angels to sleeping in the straw. The pal that held the universe took the nail of a soldier. Why? Because that 's what love does. It puts the beloved before itself"! " Love goes the distance....."
I do believe that at times love does put the beloved before themselves - I have for sure many times (denying self) - my problem is does every one understand that concept? Is that a woman concept only? Are people selfish who don't (they take, but they don't give)? Or do they just not get it (are they innocent)? And what happens to a marriage where one person is always putting others first and not getting anything in return? Is that okay? Or is it not okay? When do you take a stand for yourself? And what kind of stand do you take?
I love lots of 'things' and lots of 'people'. I love my girlfriends as much as any man. I love my family. I love music. I love feeling. I love talking. Learning. Living, Breathing . . . . I love 'living out loud'.
Now the answer for me, and would love to know what y'all think, I think love to be love has to go both ways - it must be a two way street. Talking, asking questions, romancing. If one person loves and does these things and the other one doesn't - is that love? And if it is not love, what is it?
Lovingly and questioningly,
Weird Chatty :)