We've had a very trying week in the Crone house. My daughter, who was to be married May 23rd, well her fiance has broken it off. Cold feet, too stressed, too many pre-wedding fights, the new house stresses him out, his job stresses him out and so on . . .
Devastation has set in here. My daughter's heart is broken. The invites were out, the gifts were arriving , clothes ordered or bought, the wedding dress, the cake, the quartet, DJ, photographer, flowers, plane tickets, now people need to be told, things need to be canceled, gifts returned, money lost. . . and love thrown out the window and trampled on - for what or why I don;t know.
The saddest thing is I know she loves him and I think he loves her . . . I think he's mom told him that if he's that stressed don't get married. He asked her to love with him for a year first . . . she said no . . . so what in a year when it gets hard he'll just send her and her son away? Marriage is hard - you can;t just walk out in a year and say you tried.
Doesn't anybody commit anymore? Go the distance? Marriage is excuse my French, damn hard. I think this breakup was basically because of stress. I think both their lives are shattered probably for different reasons - over what? No one can really say. No closure. Why didn't they talk? He did it with an email.
You know, don't get me on the topic of emails, computer games, texting, etc. There is no real communication any more. Talking, touching, looking at one one another. I jokingly told my grandson that in a 100 years people would probably be born without being able to talk. Evolution is such that you lose what you do not lose (okay I'm a nut - already know that!)
In my humble opinion - more marriages break up because no one is willing to go the distance and keep up the pace. It's too hard. Grueling at time. Then when you're married a lot of years - if you haven't gone the distance together, it becomes too late. One goes ahead and the other stays behind or goes a different way.
I don't know the answer. I'm just full of emotion today.
So here is something to think about - juggling your balls (work, spirit, job, friends, health), or family - which one is the most important 'ball' in your life? Don't lose sight of what is important or you might lose it. Love can die if not nurtured.
On the other hand one can never give up hope, I told my daughter to take the time she needed to go through the grieving process, but when she's finished and done - to always have hope - never give up - and don't turn bitter. I think she ought to try to talk to him . . . but what do I know?
Ultimately, the choice is hers and so are the consequences.
Hope is like a road in the country; there was never a road, but when many people walk on it, the road comes into existence."
– Lin Yutang
Ms. Penniwig - I do try to look at life through rose colored glasses and I'll be darn if someone or something doesn't try to smear them up! (Lol) I need to change my windshield wipers today.
Picture borrowed from a fellow blogger . . .