tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post2107242765790257036..comments2024-03-26T20:19:03.455-04:00Comments on Chatty Crone: How you look at it is pretty much how you'll see it. Chatty Cronehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02232040517217024681noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-19383737989916455632019-10-08T00:17:25.042-04:002019-10-08T00:17:25.042-04:00My friend, I think this post is a complete success...My friend, I think this post is a complete success. I have read it thoroughly, up and down, not only your post, but also the comments your friends have made for you, according to their own points of view. I think you are a positive lady with a golden heart, and one of my best friends. Your Blog is very rich, because you make people think, ask questions to share their own lives with yours, and so on, and so forth.<br />To my own view, I could summarize my life -as a complete failure from the beginning. After High School, I was 17, I enrolled in a Private Law School. I studied very hard to become a Lawyer. I wanted to be a Prosecutor at a Criminal Court. My favourite subject was Criminal Law. After 4 years or so, I dropped my career to go to New York. My country of birth was at War. I got married to an abuser. Therefore, I found myself being a victim of domestic violence for 10 years of our marriage. I had a baby with him. I tried very hard to save my baby from getting killed by her own father. I also tried to save my own life, for he wanted to kill me. I just wanted to live in the U.S.A. no matter what. My country of birth was at War. I WAS SCARED, those memories left traces in my mind and soul! Many people died and disappeared, vanished into thin air without a trace. As a young girl, I made lots of mistakes. But, my worst mistake was leaving my dear mother alone. I was her only child. My father left my mom when I was about 10 years old. My mom didn't want to lose me. She wanted me to stay with her. No matter how much she cried for me, and begged me to stay, I left her. 9 years after I left my home and my dear mother, sadly, she was killed -due to a medical malpractice. I have always regreted to have left her alone. Needless to say, I regret almost everything I have done in my life, except the fact to have my only baby girl, my daughter. 40 years later, my little girl back then, is a mom a grown up woman herself. Sadly, she does not welcome me in her New York home, just because she prefers her father over me. He convinced her that he was a good father. He's a liar, just to say the least. I should have stayed with my mom, finished my college studies to get the degree -as a Lawyer, and pursued a career -the way I wanted to. But, instead, I made many mistakes that I would truly regret later on in my life. I have been trying very hard to go back in time, and erase the bad to put some good things instead of the bad choices. I agree with the following statement some of your friends wrote for you. Disco is your lovely pet. I love your dog, Disco! My friend, I think you have a wonderful family. So you did great!<br />"One of the hardest things most of us face is forgiving ourselves for choices that we later think were mistakes. We don't have a crystal ball to see into the future, or to view life in reverse, and see that what we think might have been the better choice 20 years ago, or it may have truly harmed us in unseen ways. I can say now that going to college, travel, marriage, and parenthood doesn't make us a better person than one would have been. We are all born with goodness. How we nurture and share our experience, it's all up to us."Starry Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15800474511554103707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-39273278968343622442019-10-05T17:41:48.467-04:002019-10-05T17:41:48.467-04:00At age 66 i tend to reflect a lot. A few regrets ...At age 66 i tend to reflect a lot. A few regrets we made our mistakes as we were older and tried to land in the right place. Between 2003 and 2016 we moved 5 times. We should have stayed where we were, we would be sitting better financially now, but whats done is done. We are very happy here since 2016 but i do see a move down the road, a few years as we will need to be closer to our son near Sacramento . Most likely downsize into a duplex or mobile home. Its fine, as hubby's Parkinsons progresses i will need help. <br />Dogmom Divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00200083614598683445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-22155976065698288742019-10-03T06:34:49.789-04:002019-10-03T06:34:49.789-04:00Inspiring post. Thanks for sharing. Inspiring post. Thanks for sharing. Love Affair with Foodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11289037062991825917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-25088399382542982432019-10-02T18:24:51.084-04:002019-10-02T18:24:51.084-04:00You could go to college now... ;-) Just saying!
...<br />You could go to college now... ;-) Just saying! <br /><br />I went and if I had it all to do over again I would study more of some subjects and maybe not so much of others. Well, like you said, we make our choices. I think you did pretty well. College isn't everything. <br /><br />Love the cheese wrapper photo! :)<br /><br /><br /><br />Sandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08702620069148109246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-61360141547739550602019-10-02T11:03:22.500-04:002019-10-02T11:03:22.500-04:00Very inspiring and made you think post, I also bel...Very inspiring and made you think post, I also believe the words of Camus are true.Our choices are really imporyabr, but I also believe there is no coinsidence in life. Have a lovely day☺Nataliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01984981811912904970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-48553946999647361192019-10-01T23:08:11.348-04:002019-10-01T23:08:11.348-04:00Oh I believe it’s our choice how we react to the l...Oh I believe it’s our choice how we react to the land mines we all run into. You made so many good points, it won’t be me checking your grammar lol. Awww he grew up fast, and disco is just like my dog 🐕 Kim@stuffcould....https://www.blogger.com/profile/03566751822418137457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-46089114892572238772019-10-01T08:04:43.583-04:002019-10-01T08:04:43.583-04:00Wow, looong !!!
Sorry.
..Wow, looong !!! <br />Sorry.<br />..Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02982249173214655060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-65339217219578493102019-10-01T08:03:29.338-04:002019-10-01T08:03:29.338-04:00Oh Sandie, you rang my bell this morning. I too a...Oh Sandie, you rang my bell this morning. I too am a college dropout but did go back to school. I could think hard and find some bad choices though every one I think of turned out fine.<br />I'll give a not-so-short rundowm.<br />First of all though my life has been guided by open doors, whether to take them or not, and the consequences from my decision. Many involved the girls and women, like Willie Nelson, they went in and came out, most of them literally but won't leave my mind.<br />First biggie, to go to college or not. I wasn't planning to but the U of Nebraska decided during my first summer out of high school to offer me a scholarship. I went.<br />Then after three semesters of doing horribly o dropped out before I could never get back in. My choice.<br />Then after of visiting the personell office at a watch factory a job opened. I took their aptitude test and accepted a 5-cent over minimum wage job. I ran with two wild crowds, two of my best friends from one went to prison from armed robbery. Within a year I had married the sister of one, who was girlfriend of the other. An easy choice to make, two other alternative choices were not good. She was a church goer, a Christian, who straightened me out. <br />Two weeks later I received my draft notice and went into the Army. They did more straightened me some more. Time for discharge and three kids later I stayed in for three more years. (The watch factory had closed.)<br />For my reenlistment I had studied electronics and tested for a 43 week Army electronics school. I graduated 3rd in my class of 40 plus. Maybe not real dumb, I could work with my hands and my mind. <br />With an early release my resume returns were barely returning, I accepted a job as an electronics engineer with experience and training in lieu of a degree.<br />My life went that way, doors in the distance for which I headed. And took, many of them.<br />Ups and downs, a divorce after 13 years and four kids later, with several maxed credit cards, and only an older work car (VW Bug) I holed up. <br />And went back to school. And found out for sure I wasn't dumb after all. <br />Followed this with a little dating, a motorcycle, and tamed Hippie look, I got my degree, still working with the company I went with after service. <br />After three years of that, my new Mrs. Jim found and rescued me for once more. By then I had one degree and was working for another. In a couple of years another years another degree and another child, all planned this time, and was still working as an Aerospace Engineer with my company working elbow to elbow with NASA engineers in Flight Control at Houston.<br />Another open door five years after graduation I accepted a position they had made for me at the community college where I had been teaching som evening classes.<br />Now I've been retired for 18 years.<br />..<br />Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02982249173214655060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-61319701921218982612019-09-29T17:06:00.201-04:002019-09-29T17:06:00.201-04:00I've made some silly/unfortunate choices. Some...I've made some silly/unfortunate choices. Sometimes I learned my lesson and other times, I made the same choice again. I should have sooner learned that I could be very happy with less shoes and a smaller wardrobe. Much happier and save the money for the rainy day that will always arrive. Buttercuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03804094230127512943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-71657774870740832802019-09-28T18:54:21.235-04:002019-09-28T18:54:21.235-04:00The cheese wrapper joke made me laugh. So did the ...The cheese wrapper joke made me laugh. So did the picture of Disco upside down!<br /><br />I've made a lot of great, and not so great choices in my life. Like you said, the choices we make, lead to where we end up. I try to tell that to my 3 grown kids, but they will, like you said, do what they want, thinking they know it all right now. I can only hope and continue to pray that they make wise decisions on the 'big' things. :)<br /><br />I hear you too, about age bringing acceptance. There are so many things about being older that I LOVE! And...there are a few things older age brings that I could live without. ;)mail4roseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17850985344834209198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-40766040722603473012019-09-28T08:41:07.438-04:002019-09-28T08:41:07.438-04:00Happy Sunday to you.Happy Sunday to you.roughterrain cranehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12394547924137198019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-62453588671464156292019-09-26T11:16:36.867-04:002019-09-26T11:16:36.867-04:00Beautiful. Beautiful. R's Ruehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05711563217099699047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-25901748159719583952019-09-25T19:21:14.409-04:002019-09-25T19:21:14.409-04:00Looks at all the comments you got! I try not to dw...Looks at all the comments you got! I try not to dwell on regrets. I'm sure I could have made better choices in my life along the way. I also feel that where we are today as a family is awesome and this was God's plan for us all along. Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-63373032843448151502019-09-25T15:42:22.145-04:002019-09-25T15:42:22.145-04:00I do my best to always stay positive!
Lots to read...I do my best to always stay positive!<br />Lots to read in your post and think about.<br /><br />My good wishes.<br /><br />All the best JanLowcarb team memberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07961199165290289611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-75836554265021680672019-09-25T02:00:05.024-04:002019-09-25T02:00:05.024-04:00Something to mull over...to chew upon as I eat my ...Something to mull over...to chew upon as I eat my strawberries and pear. I've already had my ice cream! :)Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15835982875620956300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-52734949446528949462019-09-24T16:43:09.403-04:002019-09-24T16:43:09.403-04:00Oh, look at sweet Andy as a baby in his Santa suit...Oh, look at sweet Andy as a baby in his Santa suit. So cute. Most of us make bad choices at some time in our lives, but I think the important thing is to not become bitter and angry from then on, and to never lose love. I didn't know you went to college. I also went for a couple years, but didn't get nearly the degrees that my daughters did. Staying at home and raising my children was more important than college and jobs, and it is something that I will never regret. All that time spent with my little ones makes me smile to this day. <br /><br />Isn't that funny that Disco wakes up to the tiniest noise of a cracker wrapper being opened. Love that picture of him on his back hehehe.<br /><br />~SheriRed Rose Alleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02685747099912989862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-51924817584158906252019-09-24T13:36:50.432-04:002019-09-24T13:36:50.432-04:00Yes, for sure...Life is about choices.They are not...Yes, for sure...Life is about choices.They are not always Right and Wrong Choices...sometimes they are about choosing the better choice.<br />Like others have said some choices need to be about forgiving ourselves and moving on.<br />Bitterness and regret can be a real killer of who we really are.<br />I never enjoyed college but went for 2 years because my Uncle paid for my schooling. I did it "because".<br />Good thing that came out of it...I met my hubby and we've been married for almost 56 years. BEST CHOICE...<br />Perfect Life....NEVER...<br />Very thought provoking post today....<br />Thank you<br />I am grateful for Life...rough patches and all.<br />Suephotowannabehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11760961275666768173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-54963876903753582532019-09-24T12:38:25.345-04:002019-09-24T12:38:25.345-04:00Very true words! I struggle with negativity, too. ...Very true words! I struggle with negativity, too. And guess what? I blame my mom! LOL! She was and is a very negative person. It's hard to stop myself sometimes, but I try.<br /><br />My youngest graduated from college almost 2 years ago and has made some dumb (I wouldn't say bad) career choices as well as dumb life decisions while in college. But we couldn't tell him otherwise, and you're right, they have to learn it on their own. I pray for him daily that he will see the Light in more ways than one.Bijouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05788630004051883635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-34471992452332358262019-09-24T10:45:11.212-04:002019-09-24T10:45:11.212-04:00Well, this is a very contemplative post. I was ju...Well, this is a very contemplative post. I was just thinking on these same things this morning before reading here - how little choices ripple into big waves sometimes. You may not have a college degree, but you're certainly wise! I'm inspired by my mother who didn't attend school beyond 8th grade, but she made things happen! It can be hard to watch our kids (or grandkids) make choices on their own that we know aren't for the best, but it's how we all learn :/<br />Andy pug and Andy baby were sure cute. I didn't know about your brother, Andy. And the dog joke - so true!<br />Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853360875281742784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-30768752452994635252019-09-24T08:57:16.783-04:002019-09-24T08:57:16.783-04:00Your pretty dog Disco looks quite relaxed.Your pretty dog Disco looks quite relaxed.roughterrain cranehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12394547924137198019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-75226841423442347062019-09-24T08:33:50.516-04:002019-09-24T08:33:50.516-04:00Regrets for bad choices is not something that I dw...Regrets for bad choices is not something that I dwell on. I never made them on purpose but more because of the timing and emotion. It is what it is and it is done. Mistakes take you to places of learning and sometimes good can come from them also. The fork in the road leads us on different travels and along with them many paths to explore or not. The most important thing is to make peace with ourselves and move on. Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-30131469852959178662019-09-23T21:36:50.585-04:002019-09-23T21:36:50.585-04:00Ohhhhhh Sandie. I think all of us make some choice...Ohhhhhh Sandie. I think all of us make some choices we regret and others we are happy with. It's all part of life. As youth, we tend to make some stupid choices. When we are older, we know better. You are a lovely woman who must NEVER EVER think someone one who has a degree is better than you. No way. Some of the most wonderful, intelligent, kind, and beautiful people I've known didn't finish school. Who cares? It's what is in our hearts that matters and you, my friend, are golden. <br />Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12358462881287190635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-20412297296741226262019-09-23T20:31:39.534-04:002019-09-23T20:31:39.534-04:00Life really is all about the choices we make. The ...Life really is all about the choices we make. The hard part is sometimes accepting that we may not have made the right choice. But even then, we learn from our mistakes and move on to make better choices the next day. I think we have all been there Sandie. You sure aren't alone. Look where your choices have landed you!! A loving family, a terrific grandson, that cute Disco, blogging friends who love you!! I think you have done just fine for yourself, dear friend!Terri Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15333024343069943295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-47329317816273982472019-09-23T18:36:52.121-04:002019-09-23T18:36:52.121-04:00Young people have tunnel vision and can't see ...Young people have tunnel vision and can't see how their actions now will affect them in the futureJo-Anne's Ramblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11418152399382818709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34486160.post-78188009052894905672019-09-23T17:21:54.280-04:002019-09-23T17:21:54.280-04:00Such a thought-Full post!
I've little use for...Such a thought-Full post! <br />I've little use for those who choose to blame others (their parents, their teachers, etc.) for their failures. Straighten up and OWN them, people! Pretty sure I've more regrets than most folks. I can choose to be bitter, or maybe -- just maybe -- I can forgive myself and keep stumbling forward. (Fingers crossed!)Mevely317https://www.blogger.com/profile/14786988262452989091noreply@blogger.com