I wrote many months ago about not understanding God's plans for us at the time something happens and how long sometimes (if ever) God reveals his answer.
In 1974 my parents had been married 32 years. I had gotten married in May. I found out I was pregnant December 18th 1974. We were all going to get together for Christmas Eve.
I got home from work that day and as we were getting ready my husband told me that my dad had called from LA (he had been working there on business for a few months on and off) and that he had told my mom that he wanted a divorce and that he was not coming home for Christmas.
Everyone was kind of afraid to tell me, but there was no choice. So the whole pregnancy I was going though the divorce with my mom. The divorce was final in June, my mom moved to San Francisco with her brother in May (ran away I guess, but eventually came back home), I had my son August 20th and my dad was in LA getting married on the 23rd.
I tell you this background because of course it hurt - it hurt my mom, me, and well the whole family, but healing eventually over the decades happened. My dad brought his wife home (two years older than me).
I did learn to love her. They had two more children - a girl in 1977 (dad was 59) and a boy in 1980. My sister is 5 months older to the day than my daughter. To be honest through the years we have had our issues to work out, but we CHOSE to work them out and eventually we did.
Now 32 years later - she is one on my nearest and dearest friends ever. I adore her and love her dearly. We need each other more than I can explain.
LESSON: When God allows pain and sorrow - and you don't understand - you may never get an answer, you might get one right away, or you might get one 32 years later!
So fast forward to 2010 - my sister had twins 12/11 - which just happened to be the day our brother (now deceased) was born! Kind of meaningful to us.
And here are a couple of pictures of these cuties pies:
So remember, if something happens, if pain happens, give it time - time is a great healer.
Happy Birthday Virginia Woolf -
"Lock up your libraries if you like," she wrote, "but there is no gate, no lock, no bolt that you can set upon the freedom of my mind."
"Each sentence must have, at its heart, a little spark of fire, and this, whatever the risk, the novelist must pluck with his own hands from the blaze," she wrote in Second Common Reader (1925)
She had a tough life, but she was an amazing woman. Multiple bouts of depression led her to suicide. She loaded her raincoat with rocks and walked into the sea . . .