Okay, okay, I promise to get back on track tomorrow with my positive thinking. Remember the movie Pollyanna? She played the glad game? I like to play that game too - because sometimes you have to get quite creative to find the good in things - especially with something tragic.
But I swear to y'all something positive can be gotten from every single situation in your life - maybe not immediately, but eventually.
My parents divorced in 1975 - it rocked my world. My dad got remarried and had two other children. Well, I didn't 'get it' for years. To make a long story short, I'm thankful for my sister. So it may take time to see a blessing out of a tragedy. Decades.
So Frampton breaking up with my daughter via an email has crushed her spirit, her spirit. It's been a month today and I'm decided to let it go - my daughter, not quite ready, nor my grandson - both of whom you crushed.
They were to be married on 5/23/09 and he decided he wanted to postpone the wedding - already set up and paid for - which we lost money - and asked her to live with him for a year first - even though from day one my daughter had told him she would never do that - especially because of her son.
You see asking someone to live together is not saying I love you, it's not a commitment, it's a if it works out and I'm comfortable then we can get married and you can stay, but if it's not comfortable for me then I'll just tell you that you and your son that you aren't good enough and you'll have to move out. Is that love?
No love is a choice. It's deciding to love and work hard each and every day. If one person doesn't commit - either before the wedding or even after the marriage - then the commitment can't work. Love dies - trust me.
So I'm hoping that this will make my daughter stronger in the long run. That she will find someone so much better. And that her heart will heal. And that both her and my grandson will be able to trust again.
I will tell you that your mother - gave you the wrong advice - which I can't understand, because in my book mother's are to love their children more than themselves, and their job is to let you go and not hold you to them when you decide to marry someone else. Trust me - I've gone through that myself! So in the next song which I dedicate to you - the 'other girl' refers to your mother.
I think that you got cold feet and panicked. If you were my son, I would have advised you to go to your fiance and talk and get help together. Not quit and run away because it will just come out again. You solved nothing you just pushed it in deeper for it to come out again later. Another thing you should trust me about - repression - not good - not gone - it will always be there until you resolve it. It will haunt you and eat at you always. You may not even be able to identify 'it', but there will be something nagging at your soul
So you have lost the best two things in the world you could have had - I hope you'll be happy in the years to come. Your loss, my gain.
Chatty being mean - sorry, just had to get it out.
Tomorrow Pollyanna Chatty will return . . .