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"Life is lived forward, but understood backward. It is not until we are down the road and we stand on the mountain looking back through the valley that we can appreciate the terrain God has allowed us to scale.” Jill Savage

Tuesday, December 02, 2008

Be an Eagle, not a duck . . . or Chatty's Day To Vent

Wayne "Dyer said that if you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you’ll rarely disappoint yourself. He said, ‘Stop complaining! Differentiate yourself from your competition. Don’t be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd.” I read this on the Blog a couple of weeks ago called Personal Development for the Book Smart.

I've been thinking about that statement. It's true of course, but the meaning of what a duck is verses what an eagle is - is subjective to each person's own mind. How one person describes an eagles strengths could be entirely different from another persons description. The same could hold true for a ducks description.'

The other thought I had is - do I always have to be the eagle or can I be the duck at least some times?

I'm a strong person - I don't think it was by choice exactly, I think I've been made strong though 'life experiences'. I don't think I've have the most 'learning experiences' ever, but I've had a lot.

The week before Thanksgiving my daughter got engaged to a man we really love. Great. That means that she will be moving (great) and my grandson (which I feel both happiness and sadness about - I'm dealing with it and I know by May, I will be doing better - he's sad too - so we are grieving together - and we are happy planning together at the same time).

We went to Cincinnati over Thanksgiving to visit my son and his wife and it all went nicely. In the day time while my son and daughter-in-law worked, I spent the day at a water slide connected to our hotel - for my grandson. My husband 'ducked' out and went to the airplane museum in Dayton - which I didn't mind - day one. But day two and three he 'ducked' out and played and or worked on the computer all day - which I admit was getting to me a little bit. Ordinarily I would read and everything would be okay, but this trip was different - I had to watch and deal with my grandson those three days (which was fun, tiring but fun), the problem was that my lovely daughter had turned into the Bride Godzilla! Everything on that trip between her and I was about the wedding and everything had to be done right then and there. And believe me - she meant it and we did it right then and there. Let me tell you that a beautiful and expensive wedding can be planned in every detail over the Internet and a cell phone.

My daughter is a planner and a little OCD, we all our in our own way, I know that too, but this trip was tough. We'd make decisions without my husband and when he did get brought into the loop - he wasn't so thrilled with the decisions we made. Can I just say it is a tab bit stressful here. I was in a lose-lose situation there.

So I am the strong eagle - soaring - watching out for everything and everyone. I see that things run smooth and hurt feelings are kept to a minimum . . . hey wait - every one's but mine that is. I'm tired. I want to be the duck for awhile!

I'm having surgery 12-12-08 so any prayers would be appreciated. The total recovery time is 6 weeks. So I have to be an eagle there.

So then for the 'eagle' there is Christmas and decorations up and down - at least instrumenting it. New Years, Valentine's Day, my daughter's birthday, my birthday, my grandson's birthday, Easter, the end of the school year, the kids moving out, and then THE WEDDING -in five months! So the eagle is feeling kind of tired and in need of venting so please excuse me, but sometimes I want to be the duck!

I know Dyer meant the eagle meant doing a good job and the duck not doing such a good job, but I also see the eagle as strength and the duck as weak. But like I said while I am strong, sometimes it would be nice to for someone else to step up to the place here and let me rest. I also know - that this whole problem of me being the caretaker or everyone - is my fault!
I wish I didn't know so much.

I read this in a Blog listed on my site by Gurushabad:

"The Law of Chaos is that Law which states that chaos exists when the observing mind cannot accept what is.
The Law of Order exists when the observing mind can accept what is, regardless of the appearance of chaos...."

Oh how I understand that in my heart and soul. And oh if I could 'teach' that to my family here. They are so busy either in chaos or they are in hiding. Making my own life really reeling right now. I can't teach them or anyone else - they must walk the road themselves or chose not too.

I'm trying to stay in the Law of Order - observing and accept what is - regardless of chaos - hey, I never said it would be easy, but I am taking my own advice and I'm breathing as often as I can.
Chatty - eagle or duck - maybe I'm just Chatty . . . .


JeanMac said...

A lot on your plate right now - will keep you close in spirit over the next weeks!

Chatty Crone said...

You have a lot on yours too, thanks.