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"Life is lived forward, but understood backward. It is not until we are down the road and we stand on the mountain looking back through the valley that we can appreciate the terrain God has allowed us to scale.” Jill Savage

Thursday, May 06, 2010

Part two - Crazy or creative

Abandon the urge to simplify everything, to look for formulas and easy answers, and begin to think multidimensionally, to glory in the mystery and paradoxes of life, not to be dismayed by the multitude of causes and consequences that are inherent in each experience -- to appreciate the fact that life is complex. Scott Peck

Part 2 - Around 5pm Tuesday -

My best friend who died on the 21st was a nurse and her daughter and mother had asked us to go to the Memorial with her at the hospital. So of course, you love someone and you do it (even though the GS had writing homework!)

So we go and this is the funny thing - during the service my GS loses two teeth!!!

Yes he did - he ate a brownie and one came out and then he chewed a a piece of gum and the other one came out. So he was the ice breaker on this sad occasion - a little humor in the mist of tears.

I saw the patio on the roof where Sue told me she prayed and looked at the stars at night - and if she told you she would pray - she would. They had refreshments and guess what my grandson did? He packed a HUGE plate for himself and brought it to the table to eat. My daughter reached for it - spilled her punch and then when I tried to help I spilled my water. We were surely noticed. But Sue's mother and daughter helped us eat the big plate of desserts so not all was lost.

The nurses talked about Sue - and over and over and over again - they talked about how selfless she was and how she gave and wrote cards to everyone and anyone multiple times - that was her ministry. Her dash was a long line let me tell you.

Now my little guy has trouble taking tests - and they say he has trouble with inferring - I don't see it - I think he has trouble reading so the test is hard and he doesn't get to the inferring part - but this little guy who supposedly has trouble inferring - says, "That's Grandma Sue's Silly Bandz." GOD WINK. He got it by listening to the comments about her (and who even thought he was listening) how to share and be kind and loving. We talked about what kind of memories we want to leave and what people will say about us.

So I think he learned something - now we'll have to see.

Went out to dinner (yet another experienc) and then we brought Sue's mother home and she wanted to show us her Assisted Living home. We go in and she gives the little one something to remember her and Sue by.

I don't know how in the world his came up, but the GS asked Sue's daughter what a swear word was being with an f! (?) He heard it at school and it thought it was the word funk. We walk in there and Sue's daughter is mortified (slightly). We finally convince the GS it is the word fizzle (we are not going to tell him the F word).

We walk out and my daughter and I were already in the elevator - and Sue's daughter must have said fizzle to him jokingly - now there's a woman standing there - and my GS tells her and points to Sue's daughter and says, "She just said the F word to me!"

When everyone was in the elevator - we all laughed so hard we almost passed out. Her daughter is so sweet and lady like and here the GS tell a stranger she said the F word to a child!

Thank God Sue's daughter said she was in need of some comic relief. Check. It was a grace to her so she said.

We go home - put the tike to bed. A long day. Yes it was a crazy day - but I am soooooooo blessed. And I think to myself - What a Wonderful World -

"My own life has been much more than a fairy tale. I've had my share of difficult moments, but whatever difficulties I've gone through, I've always gotten a prize at the end." ~ Audrey Hepburn

Happy Birthday Sigmund Freud - Wikipedia

I believe that most of his 'theories have been discounted. He had an affair with his wife's sister and produced a child they aborted. He was on cocaine. Smoked cigars. Had 30 surgeries for oral cancer. Had his doctor help with his suicide.

Another words he had his issues.

He is noted for this however:

"After opening his own medical practice, specializing in neurology, Freud married Martha Bernays in 1886. After experimenting with hypnosis on his neurotic patients, Freud abandoned this form of treatment as it proved ineffective for many, in favor of a treatment where the patient talked through his or her problems. This came to be known as the "talking cure", as the ultimate goal of this talking was to locate and release powerful emotional energy that had initially been rejected, and imprisoned in the unconscious mind. Freud called this denial of emotions "repression", and he believed that it was often damaging to the normal functioning of the psyche, and could also retard physical functioning as well, which he described as "psychosomatic" symptoms. (The term "talking cure" was initially coined by the patient Anna O. who was treated by Freud's colleague Josef Breuer.) The "talking cure" is widely seen as the basis of psychoanalysis.


The Quintessential Magpie said...

Hi, Sandie... I've missed YOU! I am sort of back, but I am about to get in the car for a four hour car ride and also to find my Man Friday to pay him for working on Tuesday and Wednesday! ;-)

I loved hearing this story. It's funny how children can just do the right thing and say the right thing in a time like this. Loved his innocence in thinking the "F" word was funk or fizzle. I have a funny story about my sister and that which I can't share online lest she clobber me. LOL!


Sheila :-)

Shellbelle said...

Hi Sandie, thanks for the welcome to Georgia and the heads up that I had not updated my location on my blog profile. So much to do, so little time.

If I'm correct, Kennesaw is near Atlanta and I'm wayyyy down in Saint Mary's, just across the Florida border. I do however have family in Douglasville that I visit several times a year. Let me know when ya'll are getting together and maybe I can get up that way.

I've been reading back and honey, you had e cracking up with all your jokes.

Big Hugs!

Nezzy said...

I believe God place your little grandson at the memorial to bring joy to the very sad occasion. I'm so sorry you lost a good friend.

My daughter came in off the school bus announcing her big brother used the F word on the bus. When I finally nailed the word down he had said, " whew, who farted?" We didn't allow the use of that F word in our home either. Heeehehe

Ya'll have a fantastic day filled with sunny blessings!!!

Marjorie (Molly) Smith said...

Sandie, I am so glad y'all were able to find a little relief and laughter at a time like this. I know that is what your friend wanted for all of y'all the ability to live, laugh and love.
Little ones can say the darnedest things.

Knitty said...

In the movie Forrest Gump, I loved the use of the feather tying everything together. You had an invisible feather bringing everything together for you in this true life tale.

Susan said...

Oh Sandie, GS is SOOOOO funny. What a great little guy. I know you helped Sue's family by being at that service today. And I agree with Nezzy....God let GS be present to bring a softness to a sad occasion. Take care Sandie. Have a great Friday! Sincerely, Susan

Melanie said...

Great post. :)
You did have a crazy day!! Glad you had such a good sense of humor about it all!

ocmist said...

You helped your GS learn so much earlier in the day, and God used him, later to bring all of you some much needed laughter and joy during a time of intense sorrow.

From what you've said about Sue, I could almost see her in heaven saying, God, please give them some laughter in the midst of their tears... A "card" from her to you all.