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Thursday, September 30, 2010

Thursday - Sea World Continued

It takes A LOT to get me mad and even more to get me riled up and even more to lose control - but I almost did at Sea World.

It was hot, very hot and I don't like the heat all that much, and then of course there was the stress of the GS and Daughter deciding where to eat. One wants one thing and the other wants another - the story of my life - but that's a whole other issue. I'm the peace maker. I'll go anywhere - I can find something I want at most places. And then it was slightly crowded - I think a lot of locals go to see it as much as people from other places.

So we were going to go eat at Wolfgang Puck's restaurant. Everywhere there you got in line and then ordered what you wanted and then it was brought to the table for you to eat. My daughter sent the GS in to the restaurant itself to get a table. Well the GS kept just hesitating long enough where people were getting the table before him. Now we were all stressed and my daughter was getting mad. So I left the line to go down the empty line on the other side.

YES, I know one was in to order and out for people to leave - dah. There were no marked signs mind you. It was just going to be easier for me to go help the GS.

I started in and all of a sudden, this 30 something young girl pushing a baby in her stroller, her husband behind her - actually and literally rammed the stroller into me. I had sandals on and it hurt my toes. I said, "Ouch, that hurt. You're stroller ran over my toes". Do you know what she told me? "That is your problem lady, you're going down the wrong way.)

Says who I wondered.

I said, "I'm trying to get to my grandson over there crying."

She said, "She didn't give a hoot, that was my problem and to go down the other line." She proceeded on and pushed me right out of the way. I almost fell.

Now I never do this - never, but I was so mad I told her she was a B-tch. I'm sorry for it and like I say I don't talk like that, but I was so aghast. Her husband said nothing. Now I don't know what was wrong with me that day, but if she had said one more thing to me or hurt me again I was going to slug her!

Can you believe old Chatty is that mean?

Well, my daughter heard and when we sat down we just laughed and laughed and laughed. Probably to get over the stress. It was so sad to see a young mother talk to an old grandma this way. And not too good of Chatty either.

I had to make a choice to let it go or it would have ruined my whole day. Now I do think it was kind of funny and I do feel kind of good sticking up for myself.

Has anything like this happened to you and what did you do about it?


"There is in every woman's heart a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles up, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity."~ Washington Irving

"There is a certain relief in change, even though it be from bad to worse! As I have often found in traveling in a stagecoach, that it is often a comfort to shift one's position, and be bruised in a new place," he once explained.


BECKY said...

Good for you Miss Chatty!! Some people are unbelievably stupid, ignorant, rude,...should I go on?! I think you definitely were justified! If we don't stand up for ourselves....who will? And people like her will continue to act the way they do, until enough people stand up to them! I say, "Bravo"! ...P.S. You're probably lucky she didn't wallop you when you said that!! LOL

Cheri said...

I think we have all been there at one time or another and have said things that are out of character for us but people are just so rude anymore. Manners is a foreign concept to them I guess. I know I can be a nice person but keep pushing me and my evil twin comes out. Just saying.

A Hopeful Heart said...

I have to tell you, Sandie, disrespectful people are THE THINGS that set me over the edge. NOTHING, and I do mean NOTHING, upsets me more than disrespect. And it is rampant nowadays...obviously, that means I'm often upset.

Interestingly, in the email I just sent you, I told you we had been walking by the river earlier this week. I almost told you that we nearly got run over by bicycles!!!!! And I get infuriated at the rudeness of bicyclists. There are two sides to the path, one for each way...with a solid yellow line separating the sides. There were bicyles coming on the opposite side, and bicycles behind us (which SHOULD HAVE WAITED), but NOOOOO, what do they do, come speeding along between we walkers and the other lane of traffic. I wanted to push them off their stupid bikes. And that happens ALL the time. Part of it is that we live in a university town (which I love), but the bulk of university students have been raised in an era when respect for others is not taught, so they are highly disrespectful and uncourteous. Part of the path along the river goes right by the college campus, so there are always alot of students. And by and large they are a selfish, it's all about me, bunch.

People need to begin to train their children in the art of being courteous and respectful to others.

See, how rambling this comment is...can you tell this is one of my major issues.

Have a lovely day.


HOOTIN' ANNI said...

Well, I gotta tell you....there was one instance at Walmart Super Center one day, I was pushing a shopping cart to get some chips and know how the aisles are....narrow and at times crowded. Well, one young woman and her elderly mother I assume ---she had a young child in the child seat of the cart...standing right smack in the middle of the aisle where I could NOT get around her...I slowly steered the cart between the shelves and her cart....the child grabbed MY cart...the woman did NOT move closer to her side!! I hate that when they take up more than their share ----anyway she didn't move, I didn't say a word!!! Finally, half way through the congestion, the snide woman said in a huffy voice, "If you'd say excuse me, I'll move"....well, in my mind, SHE was at fault...but I continued to push my way through all the time the child hanging on to my cart...she finally grabbed her child's hand, and I then 'pretended' I was mute with sign language....I told her in so many words, unspoken, that she was rude...and went on my way!!!!!

Linda in New Mexico said...

Dear Chatty: I have been following (lurking not commenting) you for awhile. Love your blog, love your thoughts and love your spirit. That being said...yay for you. I hate being calling someone out when they are rude, disrespectful and impolite but I am also not "dead set" against letting them know I don't appreciate their actions. And yes, it has bought me a one way ticket to confrontation city but....ces la vive. We old crones have got to stand up for ourselves. And to Patti....I don't think people can teach their kids to be polite because they don't know how to be either. I worked with teenagers for 20something years and surprisingly, the parents were as ignorant as the kids. Very sad indeed. Chatty Crone, you are my hero. Most of us just get disgusted instead of speaking up. The Olde Bagg

Jane said...

You were absolutely within your right to tell that woman off! Don't let anyone push you around. I'm not an advocate of violence or aggressive behavior, but when confronted with a situation like this, you have every right to take up for yourself.


That corgi :) said...

you go girl! what an incompassionate person and that is what is sad, because she didn't look beyond herself to see that you were only trying to help your GS. It wasn't like you were trying to take cuts in the line. Makes you sad for her and her husband and her child(ren).


Thena said...

Sometimes we all have taken all we can and do things or say things we later regret. Funny you said her husband said nothing, he might have been thinking the same thing you were but just wouldn't say it to her.
Times like that is when I say I need some CHOCOLATE. To me chocolate to a woman is like liquor to an alcoholic.

Joyce said...

Some people today are rude and have no ides that they are. Sorry for you experience, but glad you were able to laugh about it. Most of us say words we don't mean, but they just come out.

love and hugs,

^..^Corgidogmama said...

Yeah for the nice ladies!!!
There IS a time to react and be aggressive right back. She, was a real pill! Her mama didn't raise her right~

Together We Save said...

Shocking that anyone could be so rude! I am so glad you stuck up for yourself.

Chicken Wrangler said...

I would have decked that person, myelf! The generation younger than we are seems to have taught their kids that ME is all important, and what ME wants is just fine, even though you are injuring someone else in the process. You can give the next wise guy a knuckle sandwich, okay??

Life is good! said...

i agree with you completely. it has never happened to me but as i age it is easier to speak my mind and i am glad you spoke yours! she was probably thrilled that you called her a bitch. it sounds as if she works really hard at being one and some noticed!

Melanie said...

Wow, Sandie.
I'm so sorry you had to meet up with that woman.
I really feel sorry for her children. What example is she setting for them??

Helen said...

See that empty table right there by the door? That's exactly where Carl and I sat to enjoy a really good meal.

Knitty said...

Bless your genteel heart! You had a Towanda moment!

Have you seen the movie Fried Green Tomatoes? If not, you must see it. The scene preceding this clip has two young snots steal the parking spot that Kathy Bates' character has been waiting for. They say something rude to her and prance off toward the store. Kathy's character remembers what Jessica Tandy's character has been telling her about Towanda, a woman who stood up for herself.

Sometimes those of us who are always polite, thoughtful, respectful and all those other admirable qualities need to speak up and act out just a little bit after we've been wronged.


Elaine said...

It's a shame that younger people today do not have the manners we were taught many,many years ago.

I would have said something also.. Today i speak up for myself when tested..

Linda @ A La Carte said...

Good for you! I try to be very nice and give everyone the chance to be the same but rudeness like that does not deserve to be rewarded with silence or tolerance. I continue to be stunned at how rude people's very sad.

Tweedles -- that's me said...

You should have peeeed on her shoe!

Mevely317 said...

WOW. I'm getting indignant on your behalf, Sandie. Some people can be such a waste of oxygen. I feel sorry for that "b's" child - can you imagine growing up with a mother like thaaaaat?
Glad to hear you and your daughter found room to laugh. Do you do that a lot? (Laugh together, that is!)

Ginny said...

Well, your two quotes are cracking me up!!! The ones I feel really sorry for are this woman's baby and any other children she may have!!! As to the silent husband, I'm sure he was afraid to open his mouth, because he's probably had to deal with her ill temper and wrath before. Yes, you have to let this stuff go and try to laugh at it, else you'll blow up!

Homemade Quilts by Granny said...

Lol. Chatty oh yes I've been there in my younger day I would have whipped her a,,,.... but now I would have prayed for her. Trish

Crystal Mary said...

Well Sandie,
We are told this is to happen....
"People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful and unholy."
Bible: 2 Timothy 3:2

You have just experienced it first hand...can you imagine how much worse it is going to be..
So sorry it happened to you.
Love Crystal xxxxx

Anonymous said...

Get em' Granny!...I probable would have slugged er'

So was the food good?hehehe

Sallie (FullTime-Life) said...

You did exactly the right thing!! and you had exactly the right word for her. The nerve of her.

How was the food (LOL)?

Rose said...

sometimes we just have to speak our peace. you were right to do this and also not let this affect your entire day. take care. rose